Body Image…Part 3
Warning: Images are not truly how they appear:
My kids have been having way too much fun with my new laptop. You know it can do all kinds of important work…games, games, Photo Booth, and more games. Here is a picture of us being aliens.
This picture is cute, funny and a little silly.
A distorted body image demolishes confidence and bankrupts our soul.
Nothing funny about that.
Years went by believing lies. Lies like, “you don’t deserve to be happy because you aren’t thin enough” or “you are worthless – you aren’t pretty like her.”
After believing this garbage, do you think I had any value or self respect… of course not.
Many women get this struggle but don’t understand how to overcome it.
I’d like to talk with you about 7 ways to change your body image so that you can begin believing truth, loving yourself, and respecting yourself. Sounds pretty good doesn’t it??? Anything worth having takes time. Steve Jobs is quoted saying, “the journey is the reward.”
Transforming your mind takes time, practice and loads of patience. This is not a sprint. If you want long term permanent growth, patience and endurance is required.
So friends, let’s roll up our sleeves and get started:
1. Redefine your definition of beauty. I love this definition of beauty from dictionary.com: something extraordinary. You are something extraordinary! Beauty is not about size or symmetrical proportions, it’s about you being you.
Check out this blog post about beauty written by a friend which speaks more about beauty:
2. Recognize and reject the lies. Learn to recognize the mean inner critic voice. Here’s an example:
Lie: You are don’t deserve to be happy because you aren’t thin enough:
Truth: Weight and size don’t matter aren’t about beauty. I am extraordinary because I have been made my Extraordinary Maker.
3. Recognize your triggers. These may be comparison traps like magazines, social media or television. Or it may be friends or family members. Whatever your trigger, begin to recognize it and develop boundaries to guard your heart.
4. Renew your self with Truth. This is building on #2. But instead of waiting for the lie to prompt the truth, you are proactive and begin telling yourself the truth. Here are some scriptural truths:
You are God’s masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10)
You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 129:14)
You are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:26)
5. Respect yourself.
6. Redirect your thoughts. So much in life we don’t have control over, but we can take control over our thoughts, feelings and actions. You may have to do this a bigalion times a day. Our words have the power to bring life or to bring death – this includes our internal dialogue. Listening and believing the lies often leads us to doubting ourselves and our worth.
7. Remember you are beautiful!
These steps could easily be turned into a book. If you have questions or would like more information, please feel free to contact me. I can recommend books and different resources to aid your journey.
At the end of the day, my hope and prayer throughout this series is simple. You matter. You are worthy. You are valuable. Please, please, please, don’t accept anything other than this truth.
Blessings to you on your journey,
Join the conversation: Which step are you going to tackle? Today, how are you going to intentionally love yourself?