Coffee Shop Challenges
Recently at a coffee shop (where all good things happen), a friend offered me a challenge. This challenge shed light on the compliancy I’d been experiencing.
After a few setbacks, I’ve found myself lacking motivation and easily distracted.
When things don’t go as expected, its easy to lose vision of your destiny.
Another way of saying this, when things don’t go according to plan, its easy to throw up your hands and say, “I quit.” Maybe the most dangerous thing though is to say nothing at all. Allowing ambivalence and apathy to take up residency in your heart.
I’m in a season like that now. Feeling a bit lost when it comes to social media and blogging. Asking questions like – what is my voice and how can I use it when it seems like so many others are saying amazing and wonderful things. It has taken some time, but I think I know a little bit more of who I am and what I want to say.
After a season of considering, questioning, and some pity-party-throwing, I’m standing a little taller, my voice is a little stronger. No longer feeling like I have something to prove. But rather, the song in my heart beckons me to tell others, you are worthy and valuable. Not because of anything you could ever do, simply because you bare the image of the One who made you.
Back to the coffee shop…in case you’re wondering, and I’m sure you are…I typically order a tall Flat White with one Splenda. My friend began offering me challenge after challenge. Like, “what are you working on” and “when are you going to have time for that?” As she began poking around and my compliancy, she reminded me what I already knew. Because things (i.e. my book) haven’t gone my way, I’d lost motivation in my dreams and neglected those important parts of my heart.
Yesterday, while rereading the Gifts of Imperfection on a 90 degree fall day (those are just THE best….said no one ever), Brene said “When we don’t use our talents to cultivate meaningful work, we struggle. We feel disconnected and weighed down by feelings of emptiness, frustration, resentment, shame, disappointment, fear, and even grief.”
Because, I am neglecting carving out time to blog and engage in a part of me that’s my purpose, I’ve been feeling the neglect. That neglect turned into compliancy. Like ooze compliancy spills over into other areas of my life. As much as we would like to compartmentalize our hearts and minds, we can’t. One area will affect another area.
So, I’m shaking off this compliancy by telling you my commitment. I commit to keep singing my song when given the chance even if its just for one person. I commit to working a little harder. This means, I am going to have to get up early on Saturdays and Sundays to create space for these endeavors. I’m sacrificing both for myself, because when I live in my calling and purpose, I may be a little more tired, but my soul will relish in the meaning gained. I’m committing to doing this for the next 6 weeks. I committed this to my friend, but I wanted to commit publicly in my little piece of on-line real-estate with my friends.
What about you? Have you given up on those things that make your heart sing? Is compliancy transforming into neglect? If so, don’t feel like you have to make life-altering changes. Next week, I’m going to share about DTNT…Do The Next Thing. Stay tuned 🙂
Blessings to you sweet friends,