The Lies We Believe
Have you ever believed something to be true only to discover years later that it was actually a lie?
My insecurities were sucker punched when someone I respected recently told me, “you are a gifted writer. You need to keep writing.” That 2 sentence statement hung around in my mind and heart. I knew almost instantly, I had been believing a lie. The lie? I am a bad writer.
Because of this lie, my insecurity hovers around like a thick, heaving fog hiding and covering truth. I developed a habit of excusing my work. If talking about anything related to writing, I prefaced what I’m doing by saying “I’m not very good.”
For years my heart has been burdened to write both a book and blog. I used past experiences to say I wasn’t good enough. In school, I didn’t make the best grades when it came to research projects and writing assignments. I mistook my need for growth as a lack of talent. Those grades I made in high school and college did not reflect my talent rather they reflected my ability. If I’m being honest, I didn’t always put the most time and effort in those assignments.
Even today, I make endless typos and don’t have the best grammar. But those are skills. Skills I am committed to learning. (If you would like to grow in your writing ability, I highly recommend you check out Compel Training)
Writing is both an art and a desire to share ideas with the intention to influence others. I didn’t give myself this gift. The Giver gave me the gift. It is my job to protect the gift and like a plant to nurture it by giving it lots of sunlight and nutrients. Believing the lies is like a weed that strangles the life of our gifts.
What are the lies you are believing about yourself?
Do you define yourself by your performance? For example, because I did poorly on assignment’s I defined myself as a bad writer. What I needed was time to grow, learn, and put some effort into growing this gift. Defining myself by what I did only stunted and prevented growth.
Do you define yourself by what others say about you? We often keep a running internal dialogue. Unfortunately, this dialogue is often negative littered with shaming statements. You may not have uttered the words, but you do have control of choosing to dwell on those untrue words. What words or statements do you need to let go of?
Do you define yourself by whether or not others are happy with you? Lysa Terkeurst calls this the “disease to please”. And it a disease. But no one seems to be that afraid of it. This disease infiltrates our mind, contaminating and polluting our thinking.
Do you let shame define you? If you let shame define you then you are basing your worth on your perceived lack of abilities, perceived lack of self-worth, and past failures. I don’t care who you are or what you have done – YOU HAVE significance and worth. The Maker of the heavens made you for a purpose on purpose. Not one can take this away, not even you.
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you may be believing a lie. Take some time to uncover the lie. Recognize it. Speak truth back to it. The only power the lie has is the power you give it.
God has equipped each of us with unique talents and abilities. I don’t know about you, but this gives me immense peace and conviction.
I am a writer. Period. No caveats, no prefacing. No excuses.
Join the conversation: Who are you? What are your gifts? How you begin discovering these gifts?
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