Making Decisions

Making decisions: Yes’s and No’s

After several weeks of complete indulgence – Starbuck’s peppermint cake pops leading the charge, I’ve decided to trade my delectable treats for a Daniel Fast.  My mind reeled reading the list of do’s and don’ts.  Particularly the don’ts. No caffeine. No sugar.  No meat. Just to name a few.  My heart turned from excitement to anxiety, planning out recipes and meals.

I felt like everything I wanted was a “no”.

During my quest to find satisfying dishes within my limited cooking skill set, I read this in Authentic Living:

The gospel is a great big “yes.” “Yes” to God and goodness. “Yes” to love and laughter. “Yes” to selflessness and service. “Yes” to intimacy. “Yes” to the kind of relationships that nourish the soul. “Yes” to excitement and joy. “Yes” to abundant living…“Yes” to all the potential God placed inside each of us!

As a Christian, I can focus on the “no’s” or the “yes’s.” Though they are small words, don’t underestimate the innate power of these dynamic words.  Yes’s and no’s become the gateway to opportunities for your life.

Saying “no” to one thing is saying “yes” to something else. And vice versa.

When I say “yes” to picking up my phone during time with my kids, I am saying “no” to being present.

When I say “no” to sleeping late, I am saying “yes” to starting my day the way I want.

It’s all too easy to focus on the lack or the scarcity, we perceive in our life.  This creates a pattern of living out of a deficit…Nothing ever feels like it’s enough. I believe this keeps us from saying “yes” to the things that would be best for us to say “no” to and “no” to the things that would be best for us to say “yes” to.

The question is: What yes/no combination will produce life and vitality in your life?  What no/yes combination will provide nourishment for your mind, body, and spirit?

I’d love for you to take a moment to reflect on the decisions you’ve made today.  Are they bringing you to what matters most to you? Or, are they decisions out of the comfort and convenience of the moment?

Today’s comfort often leads to tomorrow’s decay.

Making decisions

For me, the way I treat my body is way too often not honoring.  I choose the emotional comfort of food over what brings me true nourishment. The opposite of nourishment is starvation and deprivation. Too many areas of my mind, body, and spirit are starving and deprived because of my choice for momentary happiness. 

So, I take one step forward towards the yes’s and no’s that will bring me closer to goodness, love and laughter, and stepping in deeper into His presence.

Blessings to you, 



  • sue donaldson

    super perspective, Melissa – I too, cringe at the thought of the Daniel or any other plan that doesn’t include peanut M&M’s – i will go throw out the rest right now! and say yes to the jeans that used to feel better – love to you – will share and repost! (you are a good writer … I am picky…does that sound proud? I think it does. Sorry)

    January 10, 2017 at 11:04 am
    • melissaClark
      Melissa Clark

      Don’t through away alll the M&M’s 🙂 For me this isn’t about weight loss – but rather sacrificing a little so that I can gain a lot more of God.

      Thank you for sharing!

      Big hugs,

      January 10, 2017 at 12:12 pm

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