The Voices in my head

The Voices in My Head

There are voices in my head. No, I’m not a crazy person.  These voices are usually a faint whisper taunting me, telling me you aren’t good enough.  You’ll never be good enough.  As the words echo through my mind, hope slips like sand through my hands.  The power I possess vanishes. Why bother? I’ll never be able to…., I think, cowering to this dark voice.

Here’s another, you should be further by now…just look at that person online or that person over there, they are so much further along in their careers and definitely a better mother than you…you’re such a failure.  My feelings of insecurity and inadequacy set me up towards the exhausting perfectionism and comparison cycle.

Who do you think you are? This one is the worst.  That phrase stops me cold, piercing my heart.  Leaving me feeling weak in the knees and pulling the plug on all my motivation and drive.

You should…

You’ll never…

You’re so….

Those are the voices in my head. I probably don’t sound so crazy now, because you likely are now thinking of the voices in your head. What are yours?

I call this voice, the voice of the Accuser.  Accusing me that I’m not good enough and I’ll never be good enough, so I might as well give up and try harder….all at the same time  (can you relate?).

I’m not much of a grammar person (if you’ve read this blog for long, this is pretty obvious). But, here is a little gammer lesson.  ‘You’ is a second person pronoun.  ‘You’ refers to a listener or a speaker.  If you’re on the other side of a ‘you’ phrase you are the listener.

Why does this matter?

The importance lies in how active you are in your own life.  When you listen to the voice of the Accuser (or whatever else you want to call it), you’re putting yourself on the passive end of communication.  Listening, soaking in the message of these lies.

When you listen lies, you ingest the deadly message.  Overtime, it doesn’t feel like garbage anymore, it begins to feel like truth.  Have you ever sat in a room that smelled? After a period of time, you don’t smell the stench anymore.  What once stank now smells normal.

Same thing, when you listen to the garbage for too long.  It no longer sounds like garage, it sounds normal or like truth.

What can you do?

  1. Begin to listen for the You voice.  Think about the inner dialogue subtlety or maybe not so subtly happening in your mind. As you create an intention to hear the garbage, you are training your brain to recognize it and be more aware.
  2. When you hear it, begin speaking truth to yourself. Here are some truth staples: You are worthy and valuable.  You matter.  You have been designed by a Creator for a reason. There is something unique about you and your calling.  You are beautiful.  Your past doesn’t define you but your Creator does.
  3. Repeat.  You will be amazed as you quit listening to lies and begin speaking truth how your beliefs change.  As your beliefs change, so will your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

The Voices in my Head

Blessings to you sweet friends,

Melissa

2 Comments

  • sue donaldson

    I knew I needed this when it came through The Write Sisters – but just now got to reading it and needed it even more. At 64 you’d think I wouldn’t. I struggled last evening while reading of someone online and then began feeding truth – God is in charge, He can use me as He pleases, I am enough because I am who He made me. (I’d still love to lose 6 lbs, however.) love, sue (great post – even the grammar part…)

    November 14, 2016 at 12:40 pm

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