How to Thrive

How to Survive Thrive During Times of Struggle

It had been a really long week.  I decided my body and my mind needed a break, and so I set out for a walk on a hot, Texas afternoon.  Sweating and thinking can often bring about catharsis.  I began to process one of the hardest times my family recently experienced.  A real test of faith and perseverance.

Last week, my husband smiled with delight when he told me about his 5 mile run.  Only a few hours later our worlds were turned upside down.

Alarmed by the multiple phone calls, I decided it best to return the call.  Its never good when you get multiple phone calls.  On the other end of line, I stood stunned and amazed when mom told me Justin had been taken by ambulance to the hospital. My friend, partner in life, father of our kids collapsed at home while I was at work.

The next few days were filled with tests and for my love an excruciating amount of pain.  My heart ached for him and I also became aware of profound sense of loneliness.  I was left to make decisions as well care for our home, kids and work.

Moments like these are faith definers…aren’t they.  We have a choice to give into fear, anger (believe me, one evening I was ragey I felt like I may literally attack someone given the chance), sadness, despair.  The list goes on and on.

As I walked pondering the recent events, I came upon this flower: #thrive

How to Thrive During Times of Struggle


Certainly not the prettiest of flowers, I mean it is a weed.  But, so symbolic for what I was experiencing.  This plant was growing in the midst of a drought.  In the midst of struggle and lack of resources, the color shown with radiance and beauty.

Then, with a deep breath, a smile emerged.  My walk continued, with a renewed heart and fresh perspective.  And with that perspective, my focus shifted from deficient to possibilities.

The following are 8 powerful how to’s of thriving during times of challenge and struggle:

1.Renew yourself in the Word

2.Reconnect with people you love and who love you

3.Remove toxic thinking and emotions

4.Recharge your batteries

5.Receive help

6.Redefine your priorities (you aren’t going to be able to get everything done)

7.Reengage your senses (think seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling, and tasking)

8.Remember this isn’t permanent

I am so pleased to report Justin’s health continues to grow stronger by the day.  We are not only surviving this event, but we thriving in the midst of it.  I’m grateful that through this experience we have grown individually, as a couple, and with the Lord.  Blessings to you on your journey, Melissa

Join the conversation: How have you thrived in times of adversity and challenge?


  • Becky

    This is very cliche but I always try to remember when I’m focusing on my troubles that someone out there has it so much worse than me. It helps me refocus to being grateful and gives me energy to meet my challenge.

    July 30, 2014 at 11:26 pm
    • melissaClark
      Melissa Clark

      Not cliche at all! This is a great perspective and so true!

      July 31, 2014 at 2:13 am

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